Sex God's Way

Discover God's vision for sexuality to better understand why it's worth resisting ALL of Satan's temptations to destroy it and to more fully enjoy what it's supposed to be.

Videos

Hear why & how Garry Ingraham left behind a gay lifestyle, pornography, masturbation, & premarital sex for Jesus.

Learn why believing that we are created in God’s image as “male and female” (Gen 1:26-27) and that we are restored as a “new creation” when saved (2 Corinthians 5:17) is critical to our ability to receive freedom and grow to maturity in Christ.

God's first command to mankind was to have sex, but whether we do it His way or our own determines how much we will enjoy it.

Melissa Ingraham of Love & Truth Network discusses what love really is by God's standard.

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The Narrow Way

Discover wisdom that leads to the abundantly satisfying life Jesus promised.

Books

Unmasked

by Jim Anderson

In an era in which sexual sin is destroying marriages and families, toppling government leaders, causing rampant STDs among a generation, ravaging entire nations through AIDS, and inviting God’s judgment on nations, Unmasked is a book with revelation that could change our very culture.

Revelation about… God’s gift of sexuality, the heart of a woman, God’s true design for men and women, a father’s role in protecting his daughters and training his sons, The worship of sex that threatens nations with God’s judgment, the church’s mandate in a culture that worships sex.

Revelation that offers… Release to women as they recognize the lies of the culture that as a pure daughter of the King. A challenge to men to rise up to be protectors instead of predators. A call to pastors and leaders to identify, confront, and tear down the worship of the sex gods in the culture and create a culture in the church to train God’s people in purity and His ways in relationships. Hope to a nation deserving of God’s judgment because of the shedding of innocent blood.

Redeeming Sexuality

by Chrystie Cole

Sex was God’s idea. He created sex and our desires for sexual connection. These things are inherently good. but sin twists and corrupts God’s creation. Sex has been hijacked and used as recreation, as a weapon, and as a way to turn a profit. We use sex to gain value, power, relationships, and fill an aching void within us.

God also created us as sexual beings, entrusting females with a unique sexual power. Feminine sexuality, just like the rest of God’s creation, is inherently good. It has the potential to bring life and strength to others. But it also has the power to manipulate, control, and destroy. In an age of self-fulfillment, self-gratification, and self-indulgence, we need to learn what it looks like to steward our sexuality in a way that honors God and serves others in love. We need a vision of redeemed sex and sexuality.

The Game Plan

by Joe Dallas

Men everywhere are under attack-your neighbor, your coworker, your pastor, even your husband. And, even in Christian homes, 40% of men have fallen to this foe that can destroy marriages and ruin lives.

Who is this devastating adversary? Pornography. It floods our airwaves and PCs, assaulting the senses, and luring its prey to return again and again.

Drawing from seventeen years of counseling practice, and using material that he’s taught for more than ten years, Joe Dallas is helping readers face this enemy. Equipping those who have been caught up in pornography or other forms of sexual sin with the ability to abandon that behavior and never return.

Using the acronym ROUTE-Repentance, Order, Understanding, Training, and Endurance-Dallas walks readers through the steps necessary to attain-and maintain-sexual integrity.

Rethinking Sexuality

by Julie Slattery

Sexual abuse, sex addiction, pornography addiction, gender confusion, brokenness, and shame plague today’s world, and people are seeking clarity and hope. By contesting long-held cultural paradigms, this book equips you to see how sexuality is rooted in the broader context of God’s heart and his work for us on earth.

It provides a framework from which to understand the big picture of sexual challenges and wholeness and helps you recognize that every sexual question is ultimately a spiritual one. It shifts the paradigm from combating sexual problems to confidently proclaiming and modeling the road to sacred sexuality.

Instead of arguing with the world about what’s right and wrong about sexual choices, this practical resource equips you to share the love and grace of Jesus as you encounter the pain of sexual brokenness – your own or someone else’s.

Our Bodies Tell God's Story

by Cristopher West

In response to a world awash in sexual chaos, gender confusion, and pornography addiction, this book offers a bold and thoroughly biblical look at the meaning of the body, sex, gender, and marriage.

Bestselling author, cultural commentator, and popular theologian Christopher West is one of the world’s most recognized teachers of John Paul II’s Theology of the Body. He specializes in making this teaching accessible to all Christians, with particular attention to evangelicals. As West explains, from beginning to end the Bible tells a story of marriage. It begins with the marriage of man and woman in an earthly paradise and ends with the marriage of Christ and the church in an eternal paradise.

In our post-sexual-revolution world, we need to remember that our bodies tell a divine story and proclaim the gospel itself. As male and female and in the call to become “one flesh,” our bodies reveal a “great mystery” that mirrors Christ’s love for the church (Eph. 5:31-32). This book provides a redemptive rather than repressive approach to sexual purity, explores the true meaning of sex and marriage, and offers a compelling vision of what it means to be created male and female. Foreword by Eric Metaxas.

Pure Desire

by Ted Roberts

There is a battle going on. Millions of victims are trapped in the struggle of sexual and pornography addictions with no apparent way out. Pure Desire is the answer to this desperate cry for help from men and women who have tried to build sexual holiness into their lives and failed…and failed…and failed. This book is also for the shattered souls of mates who are puzzled, shamed, and wounded by their husband’s or wife’s sexual bondage and secret life. And, this book is for the Church to come alongside those who have come to them for help.

Here is hope for establishing healthy personal boundaries with proven, practical applications to claim Christ’s healing power and presence, perhaps for the first time. If you, someone you love, or someone you are counseling struggles with sexual addiction, Pure Desire is an anchor amid rough waters and the offer of a new appreciation for Christ’s healing power and presence. The time is now to begin walking in victory and help others to do the same. Learn how to tackle this issue with confidence, clarity, and biblical perspective.

Samson and the Pirate Monks

by Nate Larkin

With no-holds-barred honesty and poignant storytelling, Nate Larkin introduces a model of community and friendship that is reinvigorating men's ministry across the country, a model he calls The Samson Society.

Too many men see the biblical hero Samson as their model for manhood--a rugged individualist of the highest order. Yet, Samson's solitary successes were eventually overcome by moral weaknesses. Larkin, through the story of his own past and the stories of those in The Samson Society, offers a radical, refreshing alternative.

Ministries

Transforming Congregations

If you’re concerned about what’s happening in The United Methodist Church as well as Christian culture around the issues of sexuality, if you want to become equipped to do something about it… and if you think that it’s more important to reach out in love than to simply make statements, you’ve come to the right place.

We want to help you make a difference – in your own life, in your local United Methodist congregation, and in the worldwide United Methodist Church. God’s grace is so amazing and so powerful that we don’t have to be defined or ruled by deeply rooted sexual sin or relational brokenness. As you look through our website know that we would love to encourage and help your church begin to live out that truth in love.

Restoring Wholeness

Restoring Wholeness Ministries is a cross-cultural, inter denominational counseling, support group and leadership training ministry aimed at addressing relational and sexual issues. We are built on the Gospel of Jesus Christ, The Ultimate Restorer of people. Our vision is to equip the Church to take the message of reconciliation, restoration, and redemption to those who seek healing through Jesus Christ from relational and sexual brokenness. We offer a comprehensive “LIFE Matters Leadership Equipping Course” to pastors, pastoral care workers, youth leaders, church counselors and lay workers.

Equipped to Love Ministries

A few years ago Ken and Elizabeth, with our friend Rodger, began meeting together over coffee to share how God encountered us—it wasn’t long before we realized our experiences were relevant and spoke directly to the needs many people face. So, we resolved to establish a resource for people longing to understand homosexuality better and find resolution, and Equipped to Love was born. Ken and Elizabeth followed the Lord into sexual wholeness and today cast vision to countless others seeking God’s heart for their sexual identities. Drawing upon their combined experiences of walking away from homosexuality, they offer understanding of the issue that opens doors for compassion and understanding.

BeBroken Ministries

The story of Be Broken Ministries began with the story of Jonathan & Elaine Daugherty. Their personal journey through the devastation of sexual addiction and brokenness led to the formation of the ministry. As healing began, first for Jonathan, and later for Elaine, they started to realize just how prevalent sexual brokenness was for families nationwide. Not wanting their healing to be in vain, they decided to begin reaching out to other men and their families who could benefit from the principles they learned on the journey to freedom and restoration. The road was difficult and painful, but the results have been worth every step. And it will be worth it for your family too...We want you to know Jonathan & Elaine's stories so you may know that "with God all things are possible." Follow the links below to learn more about the journey they have taken to find freedom, peace, and joy.

The Pure Man Ministry

Freedom from impurity can be a reality in the life of anyone who will apply biblical principles. Far more than explaining how we become enslaved to impurity, or revealing the addiction process, the purpose of this book is to bring true freedom to captives. The biblical teachings presented here have been used in the lives of many in setting them free from bondage.

The workbook is designed for either individual use with an accountability partner, or as a small group study.

Husband Material Ministries

We help men outgrow porn! Change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship. Join our private group for men at husbandmaterialmen.com

Husband Material exists to help Christian men change their brains, heal their hearts, and save their relationships.

We do this in three ways: content, community, coaching.

SheRecovery Ministries

SheRecovery exists to provide women with help, hope, and healing from pornography addiction and sexual addiction through safe, confidential online community and access to unique recovery resources. Formerly Dirty Girls Ministries founded by Crystal Renaud Day in February of 2009, SheRecovery has streamlined into a place where women can find fellowship and support from other women all across the world. SheRecovery is now a division of Crystal’s counseling organization, Living on Purpose. At Living on Purpose, Crystal personally offers coaching and pastoral counseling services to women, couples, and teen girls facing an assortment of life events and circumstances (not just addiction).

Pure Desire Ministries

Pure Desire exists to provide a safe place for hope and healing from the effects of sexual brokenness. We educate and equip the Church in the development of a healing ministry. Through small group resources for men, women, and teens, on-site or online counseling, training events, and ministry partnerships, Pure Desire is leading the way in the battle for sexual integrity in the church.

Pure Desire Ministries began in the local church. Our founders, Dr. Ted and Diane Roberts, recognized the pervasiveness of sexual struggle in the church. The evasive answers of the past only gave men and women a message of “try harder,” which kept them isolated in their shame and struggle.

Over the course of two decades, they developed a strategy that is biblically-based, clinically informed, and highly successful in creating lasting change. In 2007, Pure Desire became an independent 501(c)(3) aimed at helping the Church throughout the country and around the world.  

The Samson Society

Samson guys are traveling companions on a great spiritual adventure, not grim pilgrims on a death march to personal holiness. We challenge each other daily to believe the incredible news that God actually knows us, loves us, and has restored us to himself. As we follow Christ together, we find our lives progressively interrupted by righteousness, peace, and joy. We are not a church. We are simply one extension of the church universal.

We are not an “accountability group.” Instead of living our lives separately and reporting (or lying) about our progress, we try to live our lives together.

We are not a “men’s group.” Okay, so there are no women, but that doesn’t make us a men’s group, does it? Please. Most of us have had it up to here with men’s groups.

We are not a 12-step group. Many of us attend 12-step groups and are grateful for them, but our addictions do not define us, and we do not segregate our membership by behavior.

We are not perfect. Not even close. We are broken individuals, but in our fractured fellowship we find a foretaste of God’s approaching re-creation.

All of the essentials of the Samson Society are described in a one-page document known as the Charter, and a Recommended Meeting Format can be downloaded free of charge on our website.

The Freedom Fight

Freedom Fight uses a holistic approach to recovery. We consider biology, psychology, and spirituality–all from a deep and committed Biblical perspective.

Celebrate Recovery

Celebrate Recovery (CR) is a Christ-centered, 12 step recovery program for anyone struggling with hurt, pain or addiction of any kind. Celebrate Recovery is a safe place to find community and freedom from the issues that are controlling our life.

While CR is an excellent first step in leaving behind a life of addiction, there is not a strong focus on inner-healing of the past hurts, habits, and hangups that helped form the addiction. For inner healing after attending CR, we highly recommend attending Living Waters. 

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