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Get Help in Loving Well

Discover wisdom about how to best help a loved one struggling with sexual, relational, and identity issues in the resources below.

Videos

Sexuality expert Joe Dallas leads us through a field of testimonies from those who have learned that a child, parent, spouse or sibling is gay. While this situation comes with no easy answers (especially when the loved one is resistant to receiving help), this film provides many living examples of how to handle what seems to be an impossible situation. Includes a special interview with radio host and Christian counselor Stephen Arterburn, who tells the story of his gay brother, who died of AIDS.

Books

When Homosexuality Hits Home

by Joe Dallas

“There’s something I need to tell you…I’m gay.”

These are hard words to hear from a beloved family member. But as hard as they are to hear, they are also hard for the same-sex-attracted person to utter.

No matter the relationship–parent, child, grandparent, spouse, sibling, or other, that admission will likely mark a change in the way you and your loved one understand each other. These can be difficult waters to navigate, but Joe Dallas knows the rough waters firsthand and offers answers to the questions you need answered.

How do I show my love for my same-sex attracted family member and yet remain faithful to the Bible’s admonitions about homosexuality?

Should I attend my loved one’s gay wedding?
What caused his or her homosexuality? Am I to blame?
Can people change their sexual orientation?
From his many years of helping families answer tough questions about homosexuality, Joe Dallas offers you sound, compassionate, and biblically accurate advice as you take a journey you never anticipated.

When a Loved One Says, "I'm Gay." (FREE PDF)

by Jeff Johnson

This is a short, easy to read but very impactful booklet, with practical advice to family members. Published in downloadable form by Focus on the Family, we pray that this will be a blessing to you.

The Story of Me

by Stan & Brenna Jones

This book is designed to help parents answer difficult or embarrassing questions about sex comfortably and truthfully (in age appropriate terms), and to encourage healthy communication between you and your child.

Healing & Recovery

by Floyd Godfrey

Many heterosexual young men get discouraged and confused by symptoms of sexualized attachments. Not only might they experience depression, anxiety, addiction, or other mental health challenges, but also confusion about sexuality, identity, and orientation. This workbook is designed to help young men develop clarity and self-awareness around these issues and find a pathway for healing and recovery in their lives.

My Genes Made Me Do It!

by Neil and Briar Whitehead

The scientific facts are now indisputable—homosexuality is not biologically hard-wired in any way. In fact half the homosexual population moves towards heterosexuality in the natural course of life — it’s just that very few people ever hear about it and strong political agendas have overrriden the facts. Any biological contribution is weak and indirect in its effects on sexual preference. Today there are more people in the West who used to be gay than people who are currently practising gays, lesbians and bisexuals. Sexual orientation is overwhelmingly environmentally caused and extremely fluid.

More than 10,000 scientific papers and publications have contributed to the book's conclusions, and highest levels of integrity were followed in the research. It has now been translated into 6 different languages, including Mandarin and Arabic. The book discusses the roles of genes (and epigenetics) hormones, brain structure and neurology, social factors, instincts, and culture. It follows the processes of heterosexual development and formation of gender identity.

This sixth edition simplifies the section on genetics. The book is probably the most comprehensive and well-researched publication you will find anywhere on homosexuality and the scientific evidence.

Neil and Briar Whitehead researched homosexuality for 30 years. Neil is a research scientist with a PhD in biochemistry. Briar is a writer.

Irreversible Damage

by Abigail Shrier

Until just a few years ago, gender dysphoria—severe discomfort in one’s biological sex—was vanishingly rare. It was typically found in less than .01 percent of the population, emerged in early childhood, and afflicted males almost exclusively.

Unsuspecting parents are awakening to find their daughters in thrall to hip trans YouTube stars and “gender-affirming” educators and therapists who push life-changing interventions on young girls—including medically unnecessary double mastectomies and puberty blockers that can cause permanent infertility.

A generation of girls is at risk. Abigail Shrier’s essential book will help you understand what the trans craze is and how you can inoculate your child against it—or how to retrieve her from this dangerous path.

Treading Boldly

by Daniel Weiss & Joshua Glaser

Parents today are the first generation to raise kids in a digitally connected, porn-saturated world. Porn can be accessed in locker rooms, cafeterias, classrooms, and bedrooms—anywhere kids have access to digital devices. Worse yet, pornography that was once considered fringe has become increasingly mainstream. All this is misshaping children’s understanding of sexuality, stunting their capacity to process emotions, and crippling their ability to form long-term relationships.

In Treading Boldly through a Pornographic World, Daniel Weiss and Joshua Glaser offer practical and spiritual guidance for parents seeking to help their teens navigate this pornographic digital landscape. Combining the latest research with personal and professional experience to guide families into the goodness for which God created us all, the authors skillfully outline the steps necessary for parents to move beyond merely surviving pornography’s challenges onto a rewarding path where their children can truly thrive.

Parenting in a Transgender World

by Erin Brewer, PH.D.

The goal of this book is to help you arm your family with skills to successfully ward off recruitment into transgender ideology, to prevent the heartbreak of seeing children reject family and friends as well the very essence of who they are.

"No one is better equipped to write this book than Dr. Erin Brewer. Having spent years consistently and persistently insisting that she was really a boy, Dr. Brewer knows very well what it is to experience gender dysphoria, and then to receive appropriate support from school and therapists in order to accept her true and authentic self as the girl-- and eventually the woman--that she is. She has also seen first-hand what idealogues and activists have done to today's schools and therapists. Were Dr. Brewer a transgender-identified child today, she would immediately be put on a conveyer belt to sterilization. As a former 'trans kid,' an educator, and a parent, Dr. Brewer has written Parenting in a Transgender World: A Handbook as a guide for today's parents, to help them protect their children from the predatory gender industry. This is invaluable reading for all parents who know that no child was ever born in the wrong body."

Trans-Formation: A Former Transgender Responds to LGBTQ

by Linda A. Seiler, PhD

Drawing from her academic research and her own eleven-year journey out of transgender desires and same-sex attractions, Dr. Linda Seiler answers questions such as:

· What does the Bible say about sexual orientation and gender identity?
· Are people born gay or trans?
· Why are teenagers adopting LGBTQ identities at alarming rates?
· What about “celibate gay Christians”?
· Does transformation mean all temptation disappears?
· How do we navigate conversations with LGBTQ-identified loved ones?
· Should a Christian attend a gay wedding?
· What about preferred pronouns?

Whether you are a Christian leader, concerned parent, or conflicted adult, Trans-Formation will equip you with a theological, scientific, and restorative response to LGBTQ.

Dr. Linda Seiler has masterfully taken the lessons from her testimony and combined them with biblical principles to provide us with Trans-Formation. It is obvious we are witnessing a serious moral revolution . . . culture pivoting away from a biblical view on human sexuality. This book is timely and a much-needed resource for the church, equipping believers to respond to the LGBTQ issues that we face.

Ministries

Waiting Room

Watching a loved one travel a destructive path is hard.  In the story Jesus told about the son who set off  for a distant land squandering his  inheritance, we find a grieving father waiting for his return.  We know he watches because Jesus paints the picture with these words (Luke 15:20, NIV) “But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and  was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.”  
Like that father, families in the Waiting Room scan the horizon to catch a glimpse of their loved one’s return; asking God to help them find their way home.  While they hold on, God has a place for  families to gather, to pray for one another, and offer words of hope and encouragement from His Word. Here they learn to to rely on His strength for their journey.  
Waiting Room Ministry hopes you don’t wait alone.  Join us.

Pure Desire Ministries

Pure Desire exists to provide a safe place for hope and healing from the effects of sexual brokenness. We educate and equip the Church in the development of a healing ministry. Through small group resources for men, women, and teens, on-site or online counseling, training events, and ministry partnerships, Pure Desire is leading the way in the battle for sexual integrity in the church.

Pure Desire Ministries began in the local church. Our founders, Dr. Ted and Diane Roberts, recognized the pervasiveness of sexual struggle in the church. The evasive answers of the past only gave men and women a message of “try harder,” which kept them isolated in their shame and struggle.

Over the course of two decades, they developed a strategy that is biblically-based, clinically informed, and highly successful in creating lasting change. In 2007, Pure Desire became an independent 501(c)(3) aimed at helping the Church throughout the country and around the world.  

Help 4 Families Ministries

We are here to bring healing, to give hope, to be a redemptive resource in families filled with hurt and shame. Living Stones Ministries is a non-profit, Christ-centered, non-denominational organization dedicated to helping families with issues of homosexuality and transgenderism. Living Stones Ministries is part of a network of ministries around the world: “Proclaiming, educating, and impacting the world with the Biblical truth that freedom from homosexuality is possible when Jesus is Lord of one’s life." Living Stones Ministries takes its name from the Bible verse in I Peter 2:4-5, “As you come to Him, the living Stone — rejected by men but chosen by God and precious to Him — you also, like living stones, are being built into a spiritual house to be a holy priesthood, offering spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ.”

Hope for the Heart

Our on-site counseling blends psychological principles with the wisdom of biblical truth to provide professional and compassionate help.

 

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