Discernment Guide: Recognizing a Pastor’s Drift on Biblical Sexuality & Gender
Introduction
As Christians committed to the unchanging truth of God's Word, we are called to "test everything; hold fast what is good" (1 Thessalonians 5:21, ESV). In an era where cultural pressures increasingly challenge biblical teachings on sexuality, marriage, and gender, it's vital for church members, leaders, and families to discern when a pastor or congregation begins to drift from Scripture's clear foundation. This guide builds on the insights from Debra Baty's Op-Ed in The Christian Post (November, 2025), which highlights real-world stories of pastoral shifts—from bold proclamation of God's design to subtle accommodations of cultural narratives. These changes often start small but can lead to a "different gospel" that separates grace from truth (Galatians 1:6-9).
At Love & Truth Network (LTN), our mission is to equip church leaders and believers to restore biblical sexuality, community, and identity through compassionate, truth-centered resources. Founded by Garry and Melissa Ingraham—whose own journeys from LGBTQ+ identities to freedom in Christ fuel our work—we provide tools like our podcast (over 130 episodes), e-courses (e.g., Sexuality & The Church), and leadership training to help churches create safe spaces for transformation. This guide is a free resource to empower you in prayerful discernment, fostering healthy churches where "speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ" (Ephesians 4:15, NIV).
Use this guide individually, in small groups, or with church elders. It's designed for reflection, conversation, and action—rooted in Scripture, informed by real experiences like those shared in the Op-Ed, and aligned with LTN's commitment to minister as Jesus did: with unwavering truth and relentless love.
Purpose
To equip believers with practical tools to prayerfully assess whether a pastor or church is upholding Scripture's holistic teaching on human identity as male and female (Genesis 1:27), the sanctity of marriage (Matthew 19:4-6), and the call to holiness in sexuality (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8). Early discernment protects the flock from confusion (Acts 20:28-31) while promoting restoration and unity. If drift is detected, this guide offers steps for gracious response, drawing on biblical wisdom and resources for ongoing support.
Part 1: Foundations of Faithfulness
Examine the core theological pillars. Drift often begins here, as seen in the Op-Ed's pastor who elevated "experience and reason" alongside Scripture, leading to a reordered authority. Use this table to evaluate sermons, statements of faith, or casual teachings.
Authority of Scripture
View of Humanity
Definition of Sin & Holiness
The Gospel's Power
Role of the Church
Core Area Biblical Standard Signs of Drift
Scripture is the final and sufficient authority for faith and practice (2 Tim. 3:16–17; Psalm 119:105).
Humans are created male and female in God’s image, with inherent dignity and a call to reflect His design (Gen. 1:27; Psalm 139:13-14).
Sin is rebellion against God’s will; holiness is conformity to Christ, including sexual purity (1 Pet. 1:15–16; Romans 6:19-22).
The gospel transforms hearts and behaviors through repentance and faith (Romans 1:16; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11).
The church equips saints for holiness, confronting sin lovingly while pursuing restoration (Ephesians 4:11-16; Galatians 6:1).
The pastor speaks of “different interpretations,” “new revelations,” or calls certain texts “cultural” or “poetic” (e.g., downplaying Genesis 1-2 as mere symbolism). Experience or social justice lenses are treated as equally authoritative.
The pastor minimizes creation order or says “gender is complex”/“fluid,” or emphasizes “self-discovery” over God-given identity. Stories of personal “journeys” override biblical anthropology.
Sin becomes “brokenness,” “wound,” or “identity confusion” without a call to repentance. Holiness is reframed as “wholeness,” “authenticity,” or “being true to yourself,” diluting the need for transformation.
Emphasis on “inclusion” without transformation; suggestions that Jesus affirms all identities or that salvation doesn't require change in sexual ethics.
The church is positioned as a “safe space” for affirmation over sanctification, or partnerships prioritize cultural relevance over doctrinal fidelity.
Reflection Prompt: Which foundation feels most vulnerable in your church? Pray through Proverbs 4:23: "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."
Part 3: Teaching & Ministry Practices
Actions reveal beliefs (Matthew 7:15-20). The op-ed describes rainbow decor and affirming partnerships as visible cues. Observe consistently.
Preaching
Counseling
Partnerships
Church Environment
Discipleship Programs
Area Faithful Practice Drift Indicators
Scripture is the final and sufficient authority for faith and practice (2 Tim. 3:16–17; Psalm 119:105).
Humans are created male and female in God’s image, with inherent dignity and a call to reflect His design (Gen. 1:27; Psalm 139:13-14).
Sin is rebellion against God’s will; holiness is conformity to Christ, including sexual purity (1 Pet. 1:15–16; Romans 6:19-22).
The gospel transforms hearts and behaviors through repentance and faith (Romans 1:16; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11).
The church equips saints for holiness, confronting sin lovingly while pursuing restoration (Ephesians 4:11-16; Galatians 6:1).
Avoids or reinterprets key texts; focuses on “love wins” without addressing sin, or invites “dialogue” that elevates affirming voices.
Promotes “self-acceptance,” “integration of orientation,” or therapy models that affirm identities over biblical restoration; discourages “change” language.
Platforms “Side B” (gay identity + celibacy) or affirming speakers “for dialogue”; joins events celebrating Pride or partners with groups redefining marriage.
Rainbow symbols, Pride flags, or “inclusion statements” without qualifiers; suppresses discussions on sin to avoid “triggering” members.
Programs focus on “LGBTQ+ ally training” or “affirming theology,” sidelining repentance or partnering with secular ideologies.
Reflection Prompt: Review recent events or hires. Does the church "contend for the faith" (Jude 3) or conform to the world (Romans 12:2)?
Part 4: Patterns Over Time
Isolated comments may be simple mistakes; patterns indicate drift. As in the Op-Ed, seminary influences and language shifts compound over time. Check these over 3-6 months:
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☐ Sermons emphasize grace but neglect truth, avoiding direct application to sexuality/gender.
-
☐ Ambiguity replaces clarity (e.g., “This is complex; faithful Christians disagree” on core issues like same-sex relationships).
-
☐ Leadership hires or guest speakers reflect a softer stance (e.g., authors promoting “queer theology”).
-
☐ Members holding biblical convictions feel marginalized, dismissed as “divisive,” or encouraged to “evolve.”
-
☐ The church’s website, bulletins, or documents quietly change language (e.g., from “biblical marriage” to “committed relationships”).
-
☐ Cultural events (e.g., Pride picnics) are hosted or celebrated without gospel proclamation.
-
☐ Prayer or counseling shifts from repentance to “affirmation,” echoing the Op-Ed's misplaced compassion.
If you check three or more, proceed to Part 5. Remember: "By their fruit you will recognize them" (Matthew 7:20).
Part 5: Response Plan
Discernment leads to action—gracious, bold, and prayer-saturated (Colossians 4:2-6).
-
Pray for Wisdom and Unity (James 1:5): Fast and intercede for your pastor, church, and yourself. Ask God to reveal hearts and restore truth (Psalm 139:23-24).
-
Document Patterns Objectively: Note dates, quotes, and contexts—not to accuse, but to clarify. Share with a trusted mentor or LTN resource (see below).
-
Ask Respectful Questions: Approach leadership humbly. Examples:
“How do you define holiness in the area of sexuality, based on 1 Thessalonians 4?”
“Can you clarify your view on Genesis 1:27 in light of current gender discussions?”
“What role does repentance play in our discipleship programs?”
“How do we balance compassion with the call to 'speak the truth in love' (Ephesians 4:15)?”
If you check three or more, proceed to Part 5. Remember: "By their fruit you will recognize them" (Matthew 7:20).
Part 5: Response Plan
Discernment leads to action—gracious, bold, and prayer-saturated (Colossians 4:2-6).
-
Pray for Wisdom and Unity (James 1:5): Fast and intercede for your pastor, church, and yourself. Ask God to reveal hearts and restore truth (Psalm 139:23-24).
-
Document Patterns Objectively: Note dates, quotes, and contexts—not to accuse, but to clarify. Share with a trusted mentor or LTN resource (see below).
-
Ask Respectful Questions: Approach leadership humbly. Examples:
“How do you define holiness in the area of sexuality, based on 1 Thessalonians 4?”
“Can you clarify your view on Genesis 1:27 in light of current gender discussions?”
“What role does repentance play in our discipleship programs?”
“How do we balance compassion with the call to 'speak the truth in love' (Ephesians 4:15)?”
4. Encourage Accountability: Review the church’s statement of faith, bylaws, or membership covenant. Suggest a teaching series on biblical sexuality, perhaps using LTN's free podcast episodes.
5. Seek Broader Counsel:
-
Consult denominational leaders or networks like Restored Hope Network.
-
Join a support group for families navigating these issues (e.g., LTN's Friends & Family resources).
-
If unresolved, prayerfully explore biblically faithful fellowships—leaving well, with love (Romans 12:18).
6. Pursue Personal Growth: Use this season to deepen your own walk. Engage LTN's e-course Sexuality & The Church ($35) for equipping tools.
Reflection Prompt: What’s one step you can take this week? Trust: "The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth" (Psalm 145:18).
LTN Resources for Deeper Equipping
To support your discernment and church's restoration:
-
Free Podcast: Episodes on biblical sexuality and leadership (loveandtruthnetwork.com/podcast).
-
E-Course: Sexuality & The Church ($35): Practical training for leaders—available at loveandtruthnetwork.com.
-
Garry Ingraham's Book: Am I Gay?: Personal testimony of transformation—on Amazon.
-
Contact Us: Schedule a free consultation at loveandtruthnetwork.com/contact for personalized leadership training.
Join our "Love & Truth Community" (launching July 2025) for forums like Pastors’ Mastermind and Friends & Family Allies.
Reflection Prayer
“Lord, keep us steadfast in Your Word. Let truth and love meet in Your Church as mercy and truth have met (Psalm 85:10). Protect our leaders from deception, fear of man, and cultural compromise. Give us courage to contend for the faith once delivered to the saints (Jude 3), wisdom to speak graciously, and hope in Your transforming power. Heal broken hearts, restore wandering sheep, and build churches that reflect Your design for wholeness. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
This guide is © 2025 Love & Truth Network. Free to download and share for non-commercial use. For permissions or bulk orders, contact info@loveandtruthnetwork.com.
Thank you for your commitment to a faithful church. At LTN, we're here to walk with you—reach out anytime!
For a PDF download of this document, please click here.
Introduction
As Christians committed to the unchanging truth of God's Word, we are called to "test everything; hold fast what is good" (1 Thessalonians 5:21, ESV). In an era where cultural pressures increasingly challenge biblical teachings on sexuality, marriage, and gender, it's vital for church members, leaders, and families to discern when a pastor or congregation begins to drift from Scripture's clear foundation. This guide builds on the insights from Debra Baty's Op-Ed in The Christian Post (November, 2025), which highlights real-world stories of pastoral shifts—from bold proclamation of God's design to subtle accommodations of cultural narratives. These changes often start small but can lead to a "different gospel" that separates grace from truth (Galatians 1:6-9).
At Love & Truth Network (LTN), our mission is to equip church leaders and believers to restore biblical sexuality, community, and identity through compassionate, truth-centered resources. Founded by Garry and Melissa Ingraham—whose own journeys from LGBTQ+ identities to freedom in Christ fuel our work—we provide tools like our podcast (over 130 episodes), e-courses (e.g., Sexuality & The Church), and leadership training to help churches create safe spaces for transformation. This guide is a free resource to empower you in prayerful discernment, fostering healthy churches where "speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ" (Ephesians 4:15, NIV).
Use this guide individually, in small groups, or with church elders. It's designed for reflection, conversation, and action—rooted in Scripture, informed by real experiences like those shared in the Op-Ed, and aligned with LTN's commitment to minister as Jesus did: with unwavering truth and relentless love.
Purpose
To equip believers with practical tools to prayerfully assess whether a pastor or church is upholding Scripture's holistic teaching on human identity as male and female (Genesis 1:27), the sanctity of marriage (Matthew 19:4-6), and the call to holiness in sexuality (1 Thessalonians 4:3-8). Early discernment protects the flock from confusion (Acts 20:28-31) while promoting restoration and unity. If drift is detected, this guide offers steps for gracious response, drawing on biblical wisdom and resources for ongoing support.
Part 1: Foundations of Faithfulness
Examine the core theological pillars. Drift often begins here, as seen in the Op-Ed's pastor who elevated "experience and reason" alongside Scripture, leading to a reordered authority. Use this table to evaluate sermons, statements of faith, or casual teachings.
Core Area
Authority of Scripture
Biblical Standard
Scripture is the final and sufficient authority for faith and practice (2 Tim. 3:16–17; Psalm 119:105).
Signs of Drift
The pastor speaks of “different interpretations,” “new revelations,” or calls certain texts “cultural” or “poetic” (e.g., downplaying Genesis 1-2 as mere symbolism). Experience or social justice lenses are treated as equally authoritative.
Core Area
View of Humanity
Biblical Standard
Humans are created male and female in God’s image, with inherent dignity and a call to reflect His design (Gen. 1:27; Psalm 139:13-14).
Signs of Drift
The pastor minimizes creation order or says “gender is complex”/“fluid,” or emphasizes “self-discovery” over God-given identity. Stories of personal “journeys” override biblical anthropology.
Core Area
Definition of Sin & Holiness
Biblical Standard
Sin is rebellion against God’s will; holiness is conformity to Christ, including sexual purity (1 Pet. 1:15–16; Romans 6:19-22).
Signs of Drift
Sin becomes “brokenness,” “wound,” or “identity confusion” without a call to repentance. Holiness is reframed as “wholeness,” “authenticity,” or “being true to yourself,” diluting the need for transformation.
Core Area
The Gospel's Power
Biblical Standard
The gospel transforms hearts and behaviors through repentance and faith (Romans 1:16; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11).
Signs of Drift
Emphasis on “inclusion” without transformation; suggestions that Jesus affirms all identities or that salvation doesn't require change in sexual ethics.
Core Area
Role of the Church
Biblical Standard
The church equips saints for holiness, confronting sin lovingly while pursuing restoration (Ephesians 4:11-16; Galatians 6:1).
Signs of Drift
The church is positioned as a “safe space” for affirmation over sanctification, or partnerships prioritize cultural relevance over doctrinal fidelity.
Reflection Prompt: Which foundation feels most vulnerable in your church? Pray through Proverbs 4:23: "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it."
Part 3: Teaching & Ministry Practices
Actions reveal beliefs (Matthew 7:15-20). The op-ed describes rainbow decor and affirming partnerships as visible cues. Observe consistently.
Area
Preaching
Faithful Practice
Scripture is the final and sufficient authority for faith and practice (2 Tim. 3:16–17; Psalm 119:105).
Drift Indicators
Avoids or reinterprets key texts; focuses on “love wins” without addressing sin, or invites “dialogue” that elevates affirming voices.
Area
Counselng
Faithful Practice
Humans are created male and female in God’s image, with inherent dignity and a call to reflect His design (Gen. 1:27; Psalm 139:13-14).
Drift Indicators
Promotes “self-acceptance,” “integration of orientation,” or therapy models that affirm identities over biblical restoration; discourages “change” language.
Area
Partnerships
Faithful Practice
Sin is rebellion against God’s will; holiness is conformity to Christ, including sexual purity (1 Pet. 1:15–16; Romans 6:19-22).
Drift Indicators
Platforms “Side B” (gay identity + celibacy) or affirming speakers “for dialogue”; joins events celebrating Pride or partners with groups redefining marriage.
Area
Church Environment
Faithful Practice
The gospel transforms hearts and behaviors through repentance and faith (Romans 1:16; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11).
Drift Indicators
Rainbow symbols, Pride flags, or “inclusion statements” without qualifiers; suppresses discussions on sin to avoid “triggering” members.
Area
Discipleship Programs
Faithful Practice
The church equips saints for holiness, confronting sin lovingly while pursuing restoration (Ephesians 4:11-16; Galatians 6:1).
Drift Indicators
Programs focus on “LGBTQ+ ally training” or “affirming theology,” sidelining repentance or partnering with secular ideologies.
Reflection Prompt: Review recent events or hires. Does the church "contend for the faith" (Jude 3) or conform to the world (Romans 12:2)?
Part 4: Patterns Over Time
Isolated comments may be simple mistakes; patterns indicate drift. As in the Op-Ed, seminary influences and language shifts compound over time. Check these over 3-6 months:
☐ Sermons emphasize grace but neglect truth, avoiding direct application to sexuality/gender.
☐ Ambiguity replaces clarity (e.g., “This is complex; faithful Christians disagree” on core issues like same-sex relationships).
☐ Leadership hires or guest speakers reflect a softer stance (e.g., authors promoting “queer theology”).
☐ Members holding biblical convictions feel marginalized, dismissed as “divisive,” or encouraged to “evolve.”
☐ The church’s website, bulletins, or documents quietly change language (e.g., from “biblical marriage” to “committed relationships”).
☐ Cultural events (e.g., Pride picnics) are hosted or celebrated without gospel proclamation.
☐ Prayer or counseling shifts from repentance to “affirmation,” echoing the Op-Ed's misplaced compassion.
If you check three or more, proceed to Part 5. Remember: "By their fruit you will recognize them" (Matthew 7:20).
Part 5: Response Plan
Discernment leads to action—gracious, bold, and prayer-saturated (Colossians 4:2-6).
1. Pray for Wisdom and Unity (James 1:5): Fast and intercede for your pastor, church, and yourself. Ask God to reveal hearts and restore truth (Psalm 139:23-24).
2. Document Patterns Objectively: Note dates, quotes, and contexts—not to accuse, but to clarify. Share with a trusted mentor or LTN resource (see below).
Ask Respectful Questions: Approach leadership humbly. Examples:
3. “How do you define holiness in the area of sexuality, based on 1 Thessalonians 4?”
“Can you clarify your view on Genesis 1:27 in light of current gender discussions?”
“What role does repentance play in our discipleship programs?”
“How do we balance compassion with the call to 'speak the truth in love' (Ephesians 4:15)?”
If you check three or more, proceed to Part 5. Remember: "By their fruit you will recognize them" (Matthew 7:20).
4. Encourage Accountability: Review the church’s statement of faith, bylaws, or membership covenant. Suggest a teaching series on biblical sexuality, perhaps using LTN's free podcast episodes.
5. Seek Broader Counsel:
Consult denominational leaders or networks like Restored Hope Network.
Join a support group for families navigating these issues (e.g., LTN's Friends & Family resources).
If unresolved, prayerfully explore biblically faithful fellowships—leaving well, with love (Romans 12:18).
6. Pursue Personal Growth: Use this season to deepen your own walk. Engage LTN's e-course Sexuality & The Church ($35) for equipping tools.
Reflection Prompt: What’s one step you can take this week? Trust: "The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth" (Psalm 145:18).
LTN Resources for Deeper Equipping
To support your discernment and church's restoration:
Free Podcast: Episodes on biblical sexuality and leadership (loveandtruthnetwork.com/podcast).
E-Course: Sexuality & The Church ($35): Practical training for leaders—available at loveandtruthnetwork.com.
Garry Ingraham's Book: Am I Gay?: Personal testimony of transformation—on Amazon.
Contact Us: Schedule a free consultation at loveandtruthnetwork.com/contact for personalized leadership training.
Join our "Love & Truth Community" (launching July 2025) for forums like Pastors’ Mastermind and Friends & Family Allies.
Reflection Prayer
“Lord, keep us steadfast in Your Word. Let truth and love meet in Your Church as mercy and truth have met (Psalm 85:10). Protect our leaders from deception, fear of man, and cultural compromise. Give us courage to contend for the faith once delivered to the saints (Jude 3), wisdom to speak graciously, and hope in Your transforming power. Heal broken hearts, restore wandering sheep, and build churches that reflect Your design for wholeness. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
This guide is © 2025 Love & Truth Network. Free to download and share for non-commercial use. For permissions or bulk orders, contact info@loveandtruthnetwork.com.
Thank you for your commitment to a faithful church. At LTN, we're here to walk with you—reach out anytime!
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For a PDF download of this document, please click here.